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Joyfully Ever After with Heidi Esther

You take care of the world. The kids. The fur babies. The house. The dinners. The dishes (always!) The schedule and friends AND...you yearn for More. More Joy. More Fulfillment. More Time. More Y.O.U. You're not alone + it's not selfish to want more of the good stuff. In fact, you were created for the dream in your heart and mission in your heart and soul. AKA The good stuff :) I've been there. Wondering "is this it?" Guess what? You have the answers. You need some different tools and a wise cheerleader ready with tacos, truth bombs, and a hug, to let you know you were meant for more Joy and Meaning. Join the community + get new tools, support, and love to get you on the path to your Joyfully Ever After, straight to your inbox once a month. Go to Https://HeidiEsther.com/tools to join the neighborhood. So, who's this lady? If Mister Rogers and Captain Marvel had a baby, it would be Heidi Esther. She is an emotional intelligence powerhouse, storyteller, and Joy Coach. She walks alongside moms and selfless warriors dedicated to their families and communities, to unravel the blocks of the heart so they create the Joyful and Meaningful lives of their dreams. She is a heart and soul explorer, storyteller, poet, and spoiler of all dogs, especially her chestnut-eyed Olive. She is committed to walking with fellow humans on their journeys towards their Joyfully Ever After. Especially when the spaghetti sauce hits the ceiling. Again. She resides in Central Illinois with her prankster wife, two eye-rolling teenagers, and two spoiled dogs. When she doesn’t have her head in the clouds or a motivational book, she can be found trying to teach her kids the virtues of meditation, making sourdough pancakes, or growing parsley for caterpillars. FOR more about Heidi Esther, go to Https://HeidiEsther.com/about-me. Or, you can email her your favorite cookie recipe at howdy@heidiesther.com. And if you’re into live videos with cute dogs, relatable stories, and tools to get you into more Joy, every day, go to https://YouTube.com/#HeidiEsther

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E076. Joyfully Ever After Playshop: Is Codependency Contagious?

April 26, 2023 • Heidi Esther • Season 1 • Episode 76

LINKS REFERERNCED
CoDA 12-Step program: https://coda.org/
Patterns and Characteristics of Codependency: https://coda.org/meeting-materials/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/
Chat with me to see if Codependency is a self-defeating pattern that's blocking your way to joy: https://heidiesther.com/contact-me/

When my kids were little, I can remember two things. First, calling myself a Mommy Doormat. Second, waking up every day asking myself "I wonder who my pound of flesh is going to feed today?" I know, gross, right?

However, part of me needed that. Because I didn't know who I was if I wasn't sacrificing myself to be, in turn, needed by other people. I didn't think a lot about love back then. My unconscious was programmed for need. Need felt more permanent, reliable, and something I could control. (HINT: important word!) I even slept next to a drawer full of thank you notes to remind myself of what others thought of me.

So, codependency. I was a classic case.

It's been a dozen years from then, and ten of those were in recovery. Beautiful, sane, tearful, joyful, recovery.

What is codependency, and how do you get it? And, when you have it, what can you do about it? And how is it different from other kinds of dependency?

If you resonate (even reluctantly) with any of the following words to describe you... People Pleaser, Doormat, Accomodating, Compliant, Self-Sacrificing, someone who Loves Too Much, The Rescuer, then you don't want to miss this playshop!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

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