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You take care of the world. The kids. The fur babies. The house. The dinners. The dishes (always!) The schedule and friends AND...you yearn for More. More Joy. More Fulfillment. More Time. More Y.O.U. You're not alone + it's not selfish to want more of the good stuff. In fact, you were created for the dream in your heart and mission in your heart and soul. AKA The good stuff :) I've been there. Wondering "is this it?" Guess what? You have the answers. You need some different tools and a wise cheerleader ready with tacos, truth bombs, and a hug, to let you know you were meant for more Joy and Meaning. Join the community + get new tools, support, and love to get you on the path to your Joyfully Ever After, straight to your inbox once a month. Go to Https://HeidiEsther.com/tools to join the neighborhood. So, who's this lady? If Mister Rogers and Captain Marvel had a baby, it would be Heidi Esther. She is an emotional intelligence powerhouse, storyteller, and Joy Coach. She walks alongside moms and selfless warriors dedicated to their families and communities, to unravel the blocks of the heart so they create the Joyful and Meaningful lives of their dreams. She is a heart and soul explorer, storyteller, poet, and spoiler of all dogs, especially her chestnut-eyed Olive. She is committed to walking with fellow humans on their journeys towards their Joyfully Ever After. Especially when the spaghetti sauce hits the ceiling. Again. She resides in Central Illinois with her prankster wife, two eye-rolling teenagers, and two spoiled dogs. When she doesn’t have her head in the clouds or a motivational book, she can be found trying to teach her kids the virtues of meditation, making sourdough pancakes, or growing parsley for caterpillars. FOR more about Heidi Esther, go to Https://HeidiEsther.com/about-me. Or, you can email her your favorite cookie recipe at howdy@heidiesther.com. And if you’re into live videos with cute dogs, relatable stories, and tools to get you into more Joy, every day, go to https://YouTube.com/#HeidiEsther

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E064. Grow your Joyful Life PlayShop: What's so bad about not needing help?

November 09, 2022 • Season 1 • Episode 64

"I got this."
"I can figure it out myself, no problem."
"I'm gonna Hulk through this and get it done."
"They are so lucky I'm here to help."
"I'm totally the rock of our (workplace/family/friend group/church)."
"I would 100% rather GIVE help than RECEIVE it. And HEAVEN FORBID I should have to ASK for any. "

I've LIVED ALL of the above, how about you? Because, why not?

Self-Reliance.
Independence.
Contributing Citizens

It's what every parent dreams they instill in their kids. So we can be productive, helpful members of society with full medical benefits. Because, so we're taught, noone wants to be living at home when they could be living by themselves. Or do we?

What are the downfalls of this "I don't want or need help" mindset? What are we missing by adopting this way of thinking? What harm are we causing ourselves and our children?

We communicate that we're not worthy of needing help. We break the cycle of giving and receiving.
We value ourselves by what we can do and we don't explore who we are. This keeps us out of discovering our true, divine Joy.
We communicate that others are better than us (SPOILER ALERT: You are just as wonderful as everyone else!)
We close ourselves off to rich, authentic relationships. We build walls "we're fine and perfect." BAD NEWS: Then our kids don't ask for help either and the vicious cycle perpetuates.
We put feeling needed above ofeeling good.

Join me and listen how to unburden yourself from the Helper-and-never-Helped mantle TO unlock your Genius and Joy!

How can we let down the mantle and let in support?
1) Practice Shoes: mindset that everything is practice; no black/white right/wrong thinking.
2) Let the crutch go: letting go of what others think; building up from within
3) Take baby steps: practice gratefully receiving
4) Power Voice: asking for help
5) Power Pants: positive reframe on asking for help

Discover more Playshops to Liberate your Heart and Soul from Self-Defeating Patterns like Guilt and Regret

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